overcome evil

  • White-Knuckling Your Way to Holiness

    It seems a lot of the struggle in the Christian life comes down to one question: who is actually carrying the weight of change? A lot of people are trying to change themselves for God instead of letting God change them. Self-reliance says: I will fix myself. I will control myself. I will make myself…

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  • The Lie of Chaos as Creativity

    The closer I draw near to Jesus, the more embarrassed I am by the things I once called freedom. I spent years mistaking chaos for creativity. I thought intensity meant depth. I thought wreckage was proof I was alive. That’s what childhood teaches you when love is unstable and safety is conditional. You learn to…

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  • Radical Forgiveness

    I am here just telling my story. I am no expert but I do have experience. Experience in learning to walk a life that is not made of make-believe, anger, hate or bitterness. I don’t have to read a good book to be brought outside of my misery. I know how to live with pain…

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  • Lily of the Valley

    They grow in the valleys and in the field. They may even grow among thorns. Sometimes, they are cultivated to grow in planted gardens. The lily grows rapidly and commonly in many places. Charles W. Fry in 1881 wrote a hymn titled The Lily of the Valley in London for the Salvation Army. The opening…

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  • Radical Forgiveness

    I am here just telling my story. I am no expert but I do have experience. Experience in learning to walk a life that is not made of make-believe, anger, hate or bitterness. I don’t have to read a good book to be brought outside of my misery. I know how to live with pain…

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  • Liars

    Have you ever met an abuser who didn’t lie? I haven’t. King David wrote the Psalms — he’s one of my favorite authors in the bible. Here’s what he said about liars, You love every harmful word, O you deceitful tongue! psalms 52-4 David, more than a king, was a warrior, singer, poet and a…

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  • Just as laughter is contagious, so is healing. I’m leaving a home I’ve lived in for 12 years. The person I was when I moved into this house is almost no longer with me. I was scared, lonely, confused and angry. I knew pieces of my story, but not all of it. I was chatting…

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  • Candy & Pearls

    Abusers carry with them a spirit that seduces you. They don’t come to you with gnarly teeth and uncombed hair. They present as love, care and nurturing. Particularly, to a child. This pattern stayed with me most of my adult life. Abusers can be fun, alive and seemingly fearless against the cares of this world.…

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