grief
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“. . . I have looked upon my people because their cry has reached me.” I Samual 9:16 What if God chooses people to help the hurting. Do you believe in God’s annointing? I do! God heals through people. Every word we speak in silence to God, he remembers. He makes a record of our…
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I was miserably assaulted in my childhood by many members of my family – my parents included. I left that home and went right into the home of another abuser. Me and my children were assaulted by him for almost 18 years. My heart sobs over the loss and victimization that plauged me and my…
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There’s a lot of talk about forgiveness, and while I believe wholeheartedly in forgiveness, I’m hard-pressed to understand the ability to reconnect to the people that violated my innocence, my trust, and gave me no protection. The way I see it is that to extend my hand to my mother, my father, my brother, or…
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Like brokenness, shame, and anxiety, fear is part of what it is to be human. We are afraid of endless things, from the very understandable to the bizarre. I first encountered debilitating fear when I was a child. My father, who ruled our home with blanketing anger and sexual dominance made my very skin tingle…
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I see so much misguided fear around abuse of children. Talk of sex trafficking, kidnapping and abductions by strangers run rampant on the news, on the internet & in family circles. These views show me that we haven’t learned much as a society about the realities of childhood sexual abuse. At all. Yes, these things…
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I was depressed for a very long time. All through my teen years and most of my 20s. Many many very serious suicide attempts. Longtime addiction. Etc etc etc. I still feel sad sometimes (when necessary) but mostly I am way above baseline. Like technicolor silly happy stupid happy. How can that be? Did I…
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Each week on Tuesday we will answer an anonymous message received at BitsnB1218@gmail.com or through DM. There are 60 million survivors of childhood sexual crimes. One in nine don’t report. The real number of victims is staggering but no one wants to talk about it. We will. If you need anonymous advice from Jesus’ girls…
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Each week on Tuesday we will answer an anonymous message received at BitsnB1218@gmail.com or through DM. Sometimes, if a comment feels resonant, we will respond via Bits n’ Bs for a more public response. Dear Nicky, You wrote, “But . . . When your abuser dies and his child perpetrates his deeds.” First, we are…
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Each week on Tuesday we will answer an anonymous message received at BitsnB1218@gmail.com or through DM. Sometimes, if a comment feels resonant, we will respond via Bits N Bs for a more public response. Dear Reader, Us survivors know that some people come among us to hurt and destroy others. Jesus came so that we…
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Here’s to all of you out there committed to healing and dedicated to growth, embracing the daily courage required to shift from self-betrayal to self-acceptance and self-love. Healing is a profound journey, not for the faint-hearted. It demands facing our deepest wounds and vulnerabilities, often unearthed through years of self-protection and denial. It is a…