Each week on Tuesday we will answer an anonymous message received at BitsnB1218@gmail.com or through DM. Sometimes, if a comment feels resonant, we will respond via Bits N Bs for a more public response.
Dear Reader,
Us survivors know that some people come among us to hurt and destroy others. Jesus came so that we might know fullness of life and feel safe and happy. When He promised abundant life, He was referring to spiritual abundance. Primary to this spiritual abundance is feeling safe and unafraid in your own home, knowing that you are loved and respected for who you are.
It’s completely counter to God and his ways, if you’ve been abused—God wants to heal you.
People who have been abused may not realize that other, healthier ways of feeling in relationships are possible. Or sometimes, healthy relationships feel boring, foreign or plain unsatisfying.
God will vindicate you. But you cannot stop trying. God will meet you on the top of the mountain, he may even help lift you up at times, but you must use your skills and your bravery and your heart to make the journey. He cannot do it for you.
You are right – evil does try to continue to take from you and it will manipulate and deceive and use our childhood wounds against us to steal, kill, and destroy each other if we let it, but we can resist evil. We can stand against it, whether being abused or being abusive, you can stand against evil and win in Christ.
If you grew up in an abusive environment, pain that’s not transformed it is going to be transmitted. Read that again – and recite it to memory.
If you grew up in an abusive environment, there was trauma that you dealt with as a child. It needs to be healed—transformed by God into something good to help heal others.
Seek support to grow in your Identity in Christ, and grow in your ability to set loving boundaries. The trauma of an abusive past often allows lies to grow in our minds—about who is to blame, what we deserve, about shame, guilt—and it can be confusing. That’s where others can help to speak truth (God’s truth) that can set you free of lies growing in unhealed wounds.
All love!
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