Each week on Tuesday we will answer an anonymous message received at BitsnB1218@gmail.com or through DM. There are 60 million survivors of childhood sexual crimes. One in nine don’t report. The real number of victims is staggering but no one wants to talk about it. We will. If you need anonymous advice from Jesus’ girlsContinue reading “Bits N Bs”
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Bits ‘n B
Each week on Tuesday we will answer an anonymous message received at BitsnB1218@gmail.com or through DM. There are 60 million survivors of childhood sexual crimes. One in nine don’t report. The real number of victims is staggering but no one wants to talk about it. We will. If you need anonymous advice from Jesus’ girlsContinue reading “Bits ‘n B”
Bits ‘n B
Each week on Tuesday we will answer an anonymous message received at BitsnB1218@gmail.com or through DM. Sometimes, if a comment feels resonant, we will respond via Bits n’ Bs for a more public response. Dear Nicky, You wrote, “But . . . When your abuser dies and his child perpetrates his deeds.” First, we areContinue reading “Bits ‘n B”
How to retrain your trauma brain
Childhood trauma can lead to an adulthood spent in survival mode, afraid to plant roots, to plan for your future, to trust, to let joy in. Many of us have been trained into negative speculation (negatively guessing what other people think, or what the future holds) because of our upbringing and our trauma. I usedContinue reading “How to retrain your trauma brain”
Bits N B
Each week on Tuesday we will answer an anonymous message received at BitsnB1218@gmail.com or through DM. Sometimes, if a comment feels resonant, we will respond via Bits N Bs for a more public response. Dear Reader, Us survivors know that some people come among us to hurt and destroy others. Jesus came so that weContinue reading “Bits N B”
Patterns of Mistreatment
Some of the patterns of treating ourselves unkindly start early on, in our homes, from the very people who are meant to keep us safe and feeling loved. When I was a teen, after my father left, I picked up where he had left off. Didn’t even skip a beat really. When your abuser isContinue reading “Patterns of Mistreatment”
Why God Why?
Throughout much of my life, I’ve grappled with these questions: Where is God in the midst of abuse? What is He doing while it unfolds? What thoughts and feelings does He have? I heard someone describe it once in two words: God weeps. This is what He is doing, this is what He is thinkingContinue reading “Why God Why?”
Discipline, A Catalyst for Change
I hated discipline. Every form of it. Until I learned that disciple is not punishment. Growing up we were punished for every slight infraction we made in my father’s kingdom. If you spoke or behaved inappropriately, a leather belt was waiting to connect with your raw skin. Any infraction, after he delivered his punishment, wasContinue reading “Discipline, A Catalyst for Change”
Mirror Mirror | Clutch On
Reflection ~ what a great way to start a week. Christianity to me has meant that when I was too weak to stand, I fell at the feet of Jesus. Faith to me means when I am out of options, and maybe before I’m completely done trying, I let go and give it to God.Continue reading “Mirror Mirror | Clutch On”
Learning to Love
The ability to see goodness and beauty in oneself is linked to seeing it in others. My own journey through childhood PTSD and adult struggles taught me that much of my misery stemmed from my inability to connect with and care for others. Real change came when I stopped making excuses and started empathizing andContinue reading “Learning to Love”
The Pedophile Huntress 