Fear Not

Like brokenness, shame, and anxiety, fear is part of what it is to be human. We are afraid of endless things, from the very understandable to the bizarre. I first encountered debilitating fear when I was a child. My father, who ruled our home with blanketing anger and sexual dominance made my very skin tingleContinue reading “Fear Not”

Real Talk

I see so much misguided fear around abuse of children. Talk of sex trafficking, kidnapping and abductions by strangers run rampant on the news, on the internet & in family circles. These views show me that we haven’t learned much as a society about the realities of childhood sexual abuse. At all. Yes, these thingsContinue reading “Real Talk”

Bits N Bs

Each week on Tuesday we will answer an anonymous message received at BitsnB1218@gmail.com or through DM. There are 60 million survivors of childhood sexual crimes. One in nine don’t report. The real number of victims is staggering but no one wants to talk about it. We will. If you need anonymous advice from Jesus’ girlsContinue reading “Bits N Bs”

Unraveling …

Here’s to all of you out there committed to healing and dedicated to growth, embracing the daily courage required to shift from self-betrayal to self-acceptance and self-love. Healing is a profound journey, not for the faint-hearted. It demands facing our deepest wounds and vulnerabilities, often unearthed through years of self-protection and denial. It is aContinue reading “Unraveling …”

Recover & Restore

These words have been on repeat in my mind since the new year. In the tapestry of a new year, the threads of healing and restoration are woven by the divine hands of God. In the echoes of childhood pain and abuse, a profound journey unfolds – one of resilience, courage, and faith. But thatContinue reading “Recover & Restore”

Mirror Mirror | A Perfect Daugther

Introspection — what better way to start a week. Question: Don’t we all want to be a good son or daugther? What happens when that means I need to be disobedient to my parents’ rules to survive? What if my speaking up goes against everything they taught me? What if my needs now must surfaceContinue reading “Mirror Mirror | A Perfect Daugther”

Mirror Mirror | Waves of Discovery

Introspection — what better way to start a week. Question: When you are faced with a truth, you must decide how to respond to that information. Will you deny what you know your mind, body and soul is speaking to you? Or will you lean in and with grace be kind to that returning memory?Continue reading “Mirror Mirror | Waves of Discovery”

Mirror Mirror ~ An Appetite for Change

What better way to start a week, but with introsepection. Healing takes a mindset of growth. As a seed becomes a plant, there is visible change. The same was true in my life. The more I healed, the more everything started to look just a little bit different. Many of my relationships in life tookContinue reading “Mirror Mirror ~ An Appetite for Change”

Mirror Mirror ~ Words of Affirmation

Introspection, what better way to start a week. When you live in a home of incest, no piece of you lives free. You can’t talk about your feelings, you cannot discuss the abuse and your emotions must be hidden away from sight. No love in. No love out. No feelings. No discussion. You must liveContinue reading “Mirror Mirror ~ Words of Affirmation”

Let Jesus Shut the Door to Your Pain

“My bathroom had now become the bathroom in the old motel room in ’68.  My mind’s eye flew open. The window of the memory had started with that body memory. I didn’t realize what my hand was telling me until I was instantly back in the motel room. Plain as day, I was there, again.Continue reading “Let Jesus Shut the Door to Your Pain”