stand up for yourself
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Coming from childhood sexual abuse I brought with me a plethora of desires that I hadn’t conceived. Instead of playing with dolls as a small girl, I found ways to masturbate and manipulate the sexual parts of me. It was what I was taught. Anal curiosity came from sodomy as sure as watching my mom…
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Doubting yourself is such a common theme among abuse survivors. It is not too difficult to understand why. The very foundation of abuse is built upon layers and layers of deceptive lies. A continuous stream of doubt is built into us by the predator’s crafty work. “You aren’t good enough to tell and have someone…
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Holidays can be deeply challenging for those of us who carry the scars of childhood trauma. The world seems filled with images of joyful families, while our memories may be of pain, neglect, or brokenness. For many, the idea of tradition feels like a painful reminder of what was missing. But the beauty of the…
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Forgiveness is a terrain I never thought I’d cross—a landscape dense with memories I’ve been too afraid to sift through. But here I am, not forgiving for their sake, but for my own. Because forgiveness isn’t about absolving them; it’s about unclenching the fists I didn’t know I’d been holding since childhood. I lost myself…
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Loneliness after abuse is a room without doors, a silence that hums beneath your skin. You might think you deserve it, that love is something you were built to repel. But I promise, loneliness isn’t a verdict. Start small. Sit with it. Don’t flinch from its sharpness— let it pass through you. It hurts, but…
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I stood there, small and brittle, in the shadow of your rage. You, the goliath of my nightmares, towering over me with fists clenched—not always in your hands, but in your words, in the way you crushed me with a look, a silence. I learned the art of shrinking early, back when I was just…
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Moments of reflection, what better way to start the week. One of the most beautiful things about healing with God is that the battle is not mine any more, but His! Coming through a home of incest left daily battles that followed me in life. The truth God taught me about fighting for me was…
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Moments of reflection, what better way to start the week. I have learned through the years that those around me matter. I’m not talking about causal acquaintances. What I am talking about is my inner circle. Have I asked God what he thinks? There is a bible story in Joshua 9 that talks about the…
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What happens when a baby gets dropped on their head? The worry is that the baby may have a skull fracture or internal injury, like bleeding on the brain (intracranial hemorrhage). Without immediate treatment, bleeding can worsen and put pressure on the brain, causing a traumatic brain injury (TBI). Immediate attention and treatment is needed and…
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Have you ever had those days where you just wanted to fall down? Absoluetely collapse? I certainly have. Many days. Guess what I did? I’d run until I had to collapse. But, collapse I had to do. I just don’t always have the strength life takes. I didn’t always have the answers for the pain…