Moments of reflection — what better way to start a week.
A sociopath can impress you by their brashness and their amazing ability to lie on a dime and prevaricate at will. I know most of us don’t like to use lables like sociopath, narcissist or evil but there are times when we certainly need to.
A sociopath is so controlling over their world out of their fears, their own self-pity and self-preseration and their deep self-pleasure that you have absolutely no control over your own world when you are married to them or an indentrued servant to them. They will simply not allow it.
The only world I knew when I was raised and then married to a sociopath was the world according to them. That kept me in a very dark prison because I never sought answers outside of that world. Without going beyond their borders you cannot find solutions.
It is like the Stockholm syndrome. I’ve written about it before. Stockholm syndrome is a coping mechanism to a captive or abusive situation. People develop positive feelings toward their captors or abusers over time. In my case these “people” were my parents and then my husband.
When I learned to walk away from these people I was surprised how much I didn’t really care about them. I cared when I was their prisoner, but when I gained my freedom, I was released from that burden.
Dr. Henry Cloud who coauthored the book called, Boundaries, posted brilliant words the other day.
Sometimes people don’t reap what they sow —
Dr. henry cloud
because someone else steps in and reaps the consequences FOR THEM.
I did this for years, and year, and years!
Step out of the way, learn to see yourself (UCU), get to safety and let these folks reap their due reward — CONSEQUENCES.
I’ll continue next week.
This week’s reflection should be: Am I giving out of my free will or am I basically an indentured servant?
The Pedophile Huntress 