I work in a busy corporate law firm in the Downtown area of my city. When everyone around me is stressed out and struggling, I’ve found my place by being able to step in, calm the situation down and quickly find solutions. As a result, I am now a director and run a few departments in the firm.
A good counselor that believes in you can rewire your brain, and help change your destiny. I have one of those counselors. He once told me people who come from similar pasts do not often overcome their traumas.
There are things that I use from my past that help me greatly in my career. As an example, when things are on a crash course at work and everyone has their stress hats on, I can walk in and keep my peace.
You know why?
No one is being raped or murdered.
When I first met my counselor, he told me I lived on red alert. He said he will have felt he’d done his job well if I could learn to live more in the amber alert zone.
I’ve used living on high alert to my strength, not detriment. Sure, there is a cost to stress but many things in life just don’t stress me out like it would another person.
No one is being raped or murdered.
Use what you can to your benefit. Fear is different than stress. Stress is different than anxiety and so on.
Choose the trajectory of your path. Don’t let it choose you.
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